10th anniversary

on a lighter note, today marks ten years of marriage for adam and i. it's not a surprise, but it is kinda neat. here's what i posted on fb, and i liked it:

seriously good times. just the other day we were discussing what it means to be in a good relationship, or conversely, what seems to derail bad ones. the best guess we could come up with is that we didn't, and still don't, rely on the other for happiness. sure, adam brings a lot of happiness into my life (and other feelings too:P ), but he is not my exclusive source and i do not rely on him to provide my happiness. he contributes to my happiness, and what a fabulous contribution he makes.

politics and personal experience

so one of the people running for president has had multiple accusations of committing sexual assault. most from the past, but some victims coming forward now after the candidacy has shone a bright light. is it possible some victims coming forward are doing so for a deceptive reason? yes. is it likely? no. these people are not "just remembering now," they are just now being comfortable in saying something. in response to someone posting a meme about "just remembering," i gave the following response:

according to RAINN, 2 out of 3 sexual assaults go unreported. reasons are all over the map, but the top two reasons are fear of retaliation of doubting police would help. the context is clearly different today and these women believe saying something now could make a difference. the decision should not be trivialized.

sexual assault should never be trivialized. it's more prevalent than people realize and making in the butt of a joke does nothing to help. instead, that attitude keeps the crimes in the shadows and keeps victims ashamed and silent.